When Growth Feels Messy: Learning to Embrace the Chaos

Song to Listen While Reading: Good Days – SZA

Press play, settle in, and let the music guide you through the messy yet beautiful journey of growth.

Growth isn't always neat. Sometimes it's messy, confusing, and downright uncomfortable. There are days when you think you're moving forward, and then bam a setback hits, and suddenly it feels like you're back at square one. If you've been there, trust me you're not alone.

I remember a season in my life when I was juggling school, work, and building The Pink Room Session. I thought I had it all together, but inside, I felt scattered. Some days, I'd make a breakthrough; other days, I'd question if I was even moving at all. It felt chaotic, like a storm I couldn't control. But that's the thing about growth it isn't linear.

Recently, I came across a post on The Shade Room that resonated with me. They shared a story about Keyshia Ka’oir and Gucci Mane opening up about managing his schizophrenia. It was a raw reminder that behind every polished image, there's a journey filled with challenges and growth. Keyshia's transparency about their struggles and triumphs highlighted the importance of embracing the messy parts of life.

Here’s what helped me embrace the chaos:

1. Give yourself grace. Messy days don't erase progress. Celebrate small wins, even if they feel tiny.

2. Shift your mindset. Instead of asking "Why is this so hard?" try asking, "What is this teaching me?"

3. Break it down. Big goals can feel overwhelming. Focus on one step at a time and honor each small victory.

4. Reflect, don't dwell. Journaling or talking with someone you trust can help you process without getting stuck in frustration.

Remember, growth isn't supposed to feel easy all the time. The messy moments are proof that you're stretching, learning, and evolving. The storm might feel uncomfortable, but it's shaping you into a stronger, wiser version of yourself.

So, when growth feels messy lean into it. Embrace the chaos. You're exactly where you need to be.

Until next time, beautiful keep growing, keep glowing, and remember… this is where confidence meets conversation.